When you use the services of a real professional, go to the appointment with an open mind. You may have your heart set of pale blond, but if the colorist can prove to you that a deep strawberry is really your best shade, listen to her. She is trained to match color with skin tone. She knows what will work, and what won't.
But any such stigma associated with coloring our mane is long gone. Anymore it's so common no one gives it a second thought. In fact some of us would be hard pressed to recognize our own natural hair color it's been so long since we have seen it. Because as they say color is a girl's best friend.