Another thing that's changed from when your mom used to color her grays away under the cover of darkness is the quality of the products available. It's been a long time since anyone has gotten even a whiff of any strong, offensive smelling products in salons. Those have long since disappeared or been replaced by gentler formulations that are free, or mostly free from ammonia, peroxide or other harsher chemicals.
Hair color product web sites offer the entire range of hair color available with them and what can be done with it. However, do remember that they are using professional models (with amazing skin) and you would need to discount some of the ideas that they demonstrate. The official web site however, does help you get the right shade and that is very important before you decide your hair color.