Another thing that's changed from when your mom used to color her grays away under the cover of darkness is the quality of the products available. It's been a long time since anyone has gotten even a whiff of any strong, offensive smelling products in salons. Those have long since disappeared or been replaced by gentler formulations that are free, or mostly free from ammonia, peroxide or other harsher chemicals.
Hair color ideas are not stand alone thoughts and need to be combined with your skin tone and personality to give you the right match. Never copy someone else's hair color idea blindly as it just might be completely wrong for you. If you are coloring your hair for the first time, you can seek professional help at the salon. Otherwise, the internet is a good place to start with as well: